I had many reasons to skip out on the appointment my friend made for me to try horses at a top barn.
–> I could have slept in, claiming I was too tired to get up that early.
–> I could have said it was too cold to go that far, especially since I had left my shell jacket behind.
–> I could have let fear get the better of me, saying I wasn’t enough of a rider to see those horses (let alone try them).
–> I could have said that since 2 of them were so far out of my budget it wasn’t funny and there was no way in &*(^ I’d ever be able to afford them, that it would be a waste of everyone’s time seeing them.
–> I could have also said that there was no way I’d be able to get home from the barn and no way I’d walk to town (~2mi) in my (pull-on) tall boots.
Or– I could look at the appointment as a gift to make a new connection and maybe see a good horse.
I pulled on my breeches and boots and called an Uber.
(Yes, I did end up walking the ~2mi to town in my tall boots to call my Uber home. But it was worth every step.)
We self-sabotage ourselves far more frequently than we realize.
We look at ourselves and get caught up in the stories about the muchness and many-ness of our own self-worth and how we think others perceive us, that we so often miss the point of it all: we show up and push through the discomfort because there is someone waiting for us to step up and show it can be done.
The best thing that I did for myself last year had nothing to do with horses– it was to surround myself with people committed to playing bigger.
Watching my mentors take risk after risk pushed me to do the same.
Choosing the gift of the appointment over my insecurities brought an even larger gift with it: the new fuel of seeing what is possible and within reach.
Just like watching my mentors take risks invites me to do the same, the risks you take free the people around you to also step up in their lives.
Who is needing you to step up in you life, to choose not to settle in some area or to see you conquer your fears?
The next “stretch” decision you make may be the push someone else needs to take that risk they are running from.
P.S. — By the way, a deal was just worked out for one of the “impossible” horses I tried in that appointment. What you want IS closer than you think.