One of my mentors is fond of pointing out that 2 degrees off is still 2 degrees off from the mark. In other words, you may be close to where you want to be, but you’re not hitting the bullseye yet.
The story is familiar: you start off on something, some grand new adventure or phase. Everything starts off great. You take steps regularly towards the bullseye. Everything is on course, aligned. Then you start to encounter some resistance. Maybe someone close to you makes an off-hand comment that stings. Or an unexpected expense occurs or some setback arises.
As things unravel from how you imagined they would go, doubt creeps in. You start to wonder if you should settle, if your target was off to begin with.
Slowly, you start to substitute your bullseye for the easier path, the path with a bit less resistance.
I started off this winter hitting the bullseye: I was mindful of my riding and professional goals and did things daily that brought me closer to them.
But as the winter progressed, fear crept in, doubt took over and soon the voices of “not enough,” “don’t know what I’m doing” and “need someone more qualified” took over. I was far more than 2 degrees off course.
Getting back on course is a decision and a discipline.
It requires a re-assertion of your goals, your priorities and your values. It takes saying a firm “no” to the things in your life that are not quite on point.
If you find yourself 2 (or more) degrees off course, try these steps:
- Go back and get super clear about what you want. Ignore what the present situation is or what you think is “feasible” — if you are being 110% honest with yourself, what is it that you desire to create in your riding or life?
- Where are you off course in your life? Typically, it won’t just be in one area, but to varying degrees in several areas. Does your riding (or life) reflect your priorities?
- Get clear: what are you willing to give up in order to get back on course? Think hard about this one, because the next step is…
- Identify what action(s) you need to take to move your riding (or life) back on target.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments section about what you are doing to get back on course.